The Peasant Princess Project, Part IV

“I hear my lover’s voice.” S of S 2:8

Stepping Stone #16.  Listen.  Note to self; his words may be few, so treasure them all the more.  Learn to listen actively, responding with your eyes, ears and body language.

“Here he comes jumping across the mountains, skipping over the hills .  My lover is like a gazelle or a young deer.” S of S 2:8-9

Stepping Stone #17 Treat Him Like a Superhero.  Note to self; he can’t hear this enough.  You can’t praise him enough.  Say it proud and say it loud and say it often.  You want a hero?  Treat him like one.

“My lover spoke and said to me, ‘Get up my darling; let’s go away my beautiful one.  Look, the winter is past; the rains are over and gone.  Blossoms appear through all the land.  The time has come to sing; the cooing of doves is heard in our land.  There are young figs on the fig trees and the blossoms on the vine smell sweet.  Get up my darling; let’s go away, my beautiful one.”  S of S 2:10-13

Stepping Stone #18 Woo One Another.  Note to self, you know what this looks like, it used to be a daily staple when you were courting.  But then the sands of time and winds of familiarity wore away in the daily grind.  Fan the flame.  Pick up the pen, write a love letter, tuck a romantic quote or poem into his lunch, slip a sweet memento under his pillow.  Create a playlist of meaningful or just downright enjoyable songs, plan a special dates and go on them.  Get away together, alone and just enjoy each others presence.

“My beloved is like a dove hiding in the cracks of the rock, in the secret places of the cliff.  Show me your face, and let me hear your voice.  Your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.”  S of S 2:14

Stepping Stone #19.  Allow for Mystery.  Note to self, you don’t always have to wear your heart on your sleeve.   Let him wonder sometimes.   Yeah, alright, go ahead and play a little hard to get.  Let him pursue you. 

‘Catch the foxes for us- the little foxes that ruin the vineyards while they are in blossom.”  S of S 2:15

Stepping Stone #20 Take Inventory.  Note to self; what unhealthy habits or relationships are keeping you from reaping a bountiful  harvest of marital intimacy?  Outside things that keep you running in opposite directions?  Inside every day distractions that keep you glued to two separate interests?   Think about it.  Healthy things (church involvement, social commitments, activities and hobbies) can very quickly become foxes destroying our fields if we don’t keep a healthy balance.